Yep, you read the title correctly…
I’m NOT a supermom.
I’m a normal mom and wife who loves her children and husband and just tries to do what she can every day.
A comment was put on one of my posts that gave me the idea for this one (thanks Caroline!).
She said that sometimes you read something that makes it seem like those women are supermoms/women. So, when we try to do what they do, we end up disappointed in ourselves because it just can’t be done.
Everyone is different…
Read that again.
Some women have children who are perfectly behaved and never talk back.
They keep a spotless home, always make sure their kids’ homework is finished, and they keep their husband happy, too.
I’m not in that category.
I’m not a supermom, and I’m okay with that.
What category am I in (and possibly you)?
The NORMAL, HUMAN, JUST TRYING HER BEST category.
Didn’t know there was a category for the imperfect, but still good, moms in this world?
Well, now you know.
In this category…
- we are not punctual people (I run late EVERYWHERE I go)
- we forget to sign the kids’ reading log AGAIN (because we forgot to make them read in the first place)
- we dig through clothes in the morning (instead of the night before) because we didn’t get a chance to get laundry done so now we have to find something the kids will actually wear
- when asked “What’s for dinner?” the answer is, “I don’t know…Corndogs again?” (Seriously, my poor, understanding husband)
- our house is not nasty, but it can get pretty messy (Did you know that 9 times out of 10 when you ask your husband to help clean, he will! My husband puts me to shame on the cleaning front!)
- we let the lunch bill at school get higher and higher because you keep forgetting to put money on it
- we cuddle on the couch with our kids and husband to watch a movie
- we tell our kids and husband we love them multiple times a day, and they know we mean it
- we are fiercely protective of our kiddos
- we know who our kids’ friends are, we keep an eye on apps on their phones to make sure they’re safe, we tell our kids the important things about safety, situations, and more
- we are always behind our kids, cheering them on, supporting them..just letting them know we are there
- same goes for our husbands! We support and encourage them to be the best man that they can be, whatever that may entail.
Do you see how all of the imperfect things are actually pretty perfect?
This is not to say that the supermoms out there don’t protect, love, and support their children.
OF COURSE THEY DO!
The point I was making was we don’t have to be supermoms/women to be good at what we do!
We don’t have to be supermoms for our kids to know we love them.
We just have to show and tell them that we love them SO VERY MUCH!
I’m not a supermom, and I’m okay with that. 🙂
I’m not a superwife, and I’m okay with that (and so is my gorgeous husband).
I’m not a superwoman, and I am OKAY WITH THAT!
Are you okay with yourself?
If not, I beg you, try to be content with yourself…try to be okay with yourself…be okay with just being a good mom, wife, and all-around woman!
I promise that once you’re okay with yourself, your kids and husband will notice.
By being happy with yourself, your family is happy, and then your home is happy.
Sounds pretty good, huh?
It won’t be a perfect home…
There will be fights, irritability, and sadness…
But there will be laughter, love, and joy as well!
And you won’t be exhausting yourself trying to be supermom, only to be disappointed and unhappy with yourself.
So what if your toddler has a tantrum now and then…
So what if your teenager just disrespected you out loud standing in line at the store…
Teenagers are just that way sometimes (don’t deny! You probably were, too!)
So what if you can’t get your newborn to sleep through the night, or you have a hard time taking away the pacifier and/or bottle, or you can’t get your toddler OUT OF YOUR BED!
This ALL happens to some of us, and it’ll be okay.
You just keep handling it how you know to be right…
After all, you know your child better than anyone else!
Advice from anyone else may not work for you, and that’s okay.
That toddler throwing the tantrum…
He knows you love him, and he feels safe with you.
That disrespectful teenager…
She has a lot of emotions right now, and mostly, she buries those emotions at school. Again, you are her safe place, just like when she was the toddler throwing the tantrum (I am not saying to KEEP LETTING THEM be disrespectful…There are boundaries)
Your 1, 2, or even 3 year old still on the pacifier?
They’ll outgrow it…You just keep trying different things that YOU think will work.
Advice is great, don’t get me wrong…
There have been plenty of times I have taken the advice from someone else and it work…
But there were a lot of times that it just didn’t work for me, and that was okay, too.
I tried…Moving on to the next thing.
We aren’t supermoms, our kids aren’t super (well behaved) kids all the time, and our family is nowhere near perfect.
I’M NOT A SUPERMOM, AND I’M OKAY WITH THAT!!!!
Are you okay with yourself yet?
Don’t worry…you’ll get there. 😉